This week we are finally back in the Gospel, and we will actually stay with the Gospel for four weeks, which is the time it will take for us to cover the whole of Mark’s chapter 10. As I have told you before, I have called this sermon series “Overcoming our hardness of heart”, but really what I thought to myself was that I could have called it “Sex, money and pride” because it really is what it’s about! It’s about all those things that get in the way between us and the loving relationship we could have with God and with one another.
Maybe you have had a chance to read the whole chapter for today, if you have done so you will probably have realized that there is a very clear structure to this chapter: Mark describes four encounters (or four conversations) between Jesus and different people, whether they are Pharisees, complete strangers or the disciples themselves. And what is common to all those encounters (conversations) is that everybody ask Jesus the wrong questions. And what happens is that as they do so, they reveal what’s in their hearts, their own preoccupations with sex, money and glory – and they just want to make sure that’s God on board with it.
Today the Pharisees want to know if it’s okay with God if they divorce their wives when they are bored with them.
Next Sunday, we’ll see how a young man wants to know if it’s okay with God to enjoy his wealth in the meantime he keeps looking for the kingdom.
Then James and John will ask Jesus if it’s okay with God that they will sit at Jesus’ right and left in his glory after Jesus has suffered what he had to suffer
Finally, at the end of our chapter, we will see how Jesus meets a beggar, a blind man who at last seems to understand what following Jesus is about.
So you see there is a unifying theme in this chapter. It’s about sex, money and pride all right, but the commonality is that people seem to be seeking limits. What they can get away with and what won’t be acceptable and could deprive them from eternal life. They are all bargaining with God! And those people are not bad people. They are all following Jesus (even if it’s to test him) and they all take Jesus seriously enough to hear what he has to say on these different matters. But of course we see the common pattern: they try to understand what’s in it for them (like John and James) or how much they can get away with without serious consequence (like the Pharisees and the young man). I think it’s important we notice that because I guess it’s also about each one of us. We all wonder at some point what we can obtain from God and what we can get away with.
What’s more important to notice though is that each time, Jesus will answer people’s questions, yet he does so not by giving them what they would call a satisfying answer, rather Jesus turns the question back at them so they would understand what their questions are really about and what they reveal about their own hearts, their own thoughts. Maybe you know this saying that we “question the Scriptures”, but eventually the Scriptures end up “questioning us”, by the stories they tell they question our lives, our choices our characters…and well, this is exactly what happens here. Jesus is wondering aloud: “Well, what does it tell me about yourself, about your heart, that you would ask me such a thing?”
If you remember from the letter of James (James as in Jesus’s brother, not the James Son of Zebedee we hear about in this chapter) – James asks us to pay attention to our prayer life and he says that we don’t receive from God because we ask for the wrong things. We can see that clearly in Mark 10: People asking for all the wrong things, people asking God to tolerate or even to help them indulge in their thirst for glory, money or sex – and each time Jesus has to bring them back to the fundamental law of love they seem unable to observe or even to understand, even as they all try to be good, religious people.
So this is for the pattern. But back to our text today. Well, this is a tricky one because this passage has been much used by the church to keep people – especially women – in bad marriages, claiming that Jesus has a zero tolerance to divorce, and that divorce is systematically associated with adultery. Well, first of all Jesus does not associate divorce with adultery, that would be re-marriage, and re-marriage only as understood by the Pharisees asking the question on that day: whether it was okay to divorce – literally to “send away” – your spouse in order to find a new one. The Pharisees are actually referring to the Mosaic law (law from Moses) that allowed men to divorce wives who did not “please them” (anymore), which kind of indicates something like acting on a whim, or maybe for no other purpose than because they were bored with their wives without fault of their own. At any rate, it is clear that in this passage the Pharisees does not ask if it’s okay divorce their wives because they were abusive, or even because they had “grown apart” emotionally! It’s really about finding a new wife, and a more pleasing one…
And this is to this that Jesus responds. Basically Jesus says that if they were to divorce in these conditions, yes, they would legally have the paper, the certificate of divorce, but in that regard, it does not make much difference to Jesus to be covered by the law. If you send somebody away with no fault of their own just in order to be with somebody else, it’s still adultery. Maybe you can get away with it in the eyes of society or even within your religious organization, but in the eyes of God it does not make much difference, it still is about your motives and your inability to love deeply. And so Jesus reminds the Pharisees of the fundamental law of love: Oneness – which is what God intended from the beginning of creation. Oneness not only within couples, but with one another. If you remember what we said about Jesus’ farewell discourse in John’s Gospel, the disciples also are invited to be united in spirit in the same way couples are united in the flesh. As a reminder, adultery in the Bible has a much wider meaning than being in bed with somebody you’re not married to. It’s about turning against God, or maybe more simply, it’s about our inability to commitment. In the same way that you can be attracted to beautiful people and want to run away with them, Israel was attracted by other gods, gods that weren’t too demanding, gods giving advantages without asking for transformation. Idolatry in the Bible is about those people who want a god that helps them manipulate reality, who gives them advantages, indulges with them without requiring changes of heart (what James calls wisdom, when he opposes true religion and shallow religion). I guess, that at some point or another, we can all recognize ourselves in this as well…
So where do we go from there? By pointing at the little children as the closest to the Kingdom of God, I don’t think Jesus is saying to people that themselves have lost for ever their purity and their innocence…Or maybe they have, but it does not matter in the end because Jesus is trying to re-direct them to what’s more essential. Not “getting by” with appearances or even religious law, not even having “all the right answers” or, for that matter, “having all the right questions”, what’s important in the end is to find a way back from our hardness of heart, to learn how to love again, as little children do. In this process, maybe actually what we really need is to “un-learn” old ways rather than to check another box on the list of the perfect disciple – but about that, we’ll talk next week…
